Your Attachment Style Is a Nervous System Pattern — Not Who You Are

In this episode, Brittany reframes attachment styles as nervous system strategies rather than fixed identities. She explores why people-pleasing and hyperindependence persist despite insight, why boundaries alone don’t heal attachment, and how relational safety — not control — allows secure attachment to emerge over time. This conversation invites you out of self-blame and into a nervous-system–led understanding of connection.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why attachment styles are not personality traits
• How people-pleasing and hyper-independence function as protection
• Why insight alone doesn’t change attachment patterns
• The limits of boundaries without nervous system safety
• What co-regulation actually means
• How secure attachment shows up in real life

Who This Episode Is For:

• Women who understand their attachment style but feel stuck
• High-achievers who over-function or withdraw in relationships
• Anyone tired of managing connection instead of enjoying it
• Women ready to build relational safety without self-abandonment

If this episode resonated in your body, The Regulated Woman is the place to begin.